To All the Stupid Girls . . .

Hi.

We've met before.

In fact, you probably remember me. I was the one making fun of you for sticking with your lousy boyfriend. I was the one who used to point out just exactly how stupid you were for not just getting up and leaving. I was the one who would say things like "I don't know what you see in him" and "You guys have nothing in common". Well, I just wanted to say . . . I'm sorry. I clearly had no idea what I was talking about.

Back then I used to look at everything rationally, and never let emotions get in the way. It was a much simpler life, but it was also much emptier. It took a while, but eventually I realized it. And that's why I wanted to apologize.

I've learned what its like to love someone so much you can't walk away, even though you know you should. And I know how sometimes, no matter how much they hurt you, all you want is to go crawling back into their arms. And I know that the things I said only made you feel worse, and for that I'm really, truly sorry. Because having lived life both ways, I can honestly say that you were right, and I was wrong.

To really love someone is to be willing to let yourself look stupid. It's cliched but its true, love hurts. That's because to really love someone is to care about them so much that you would allow them to hurt you. Which, let's face it, sounds pretty stupid to a "rational" human being. And I guess it is. But anyone who's ever experienced love, however brief it might have been, knows that its worth it.

At least, that's my opinion. Which I guess makes me just as stupid as you. But for that, I'll never apologize.